Monday, October 4, 2010

Husband's Responsibility Etiquette Towards His Wife

It is certainly not deficiency, but rather good manners, that the husband shares responsibility in household work like mending garments or what is similar to that. The wife takes care of the household affairs. So, it is from good manners that the husband extends a helping hand to his wife in the house during times of necessity such as when she is sick, pregnant, has given birth, etc. A man should not feel shy in serving himself.
 
The exemplary husband is he who cooperates with his wife by keeping good relations and showing kind manners (to her). Truly, the husbands who help their wives in their work are the best of mankind in the view of Islam. This good way of living between the spouses must be deeply imbedded into the daily marital life, even if the matter were to reach divorce.
 
Beware of characterizing the relationship between the spouses with over-seriousness. For indeed characterizing the family life with a militaristic nature amounts to one of the causes for failure and bad results.
 
Among the kind and noble manners of the husband is that he complies and assents to the requests of his wife, so long as they are not forbidden in the Religion. Extravagance in food, drink and clothing leads to the door of forbidden things in the Religion.
 
No human being is perfect. So no doubt the husband will see things in his wife that do not comply with his preferences. If these aspects are not in opposition to the fundaments of the Religion or to the obedience of the husband and his rights, then he should not try to change her personality to make it comply with his preferences.
 
He must always remember that for each one of the couple, there will be an aspect of one's personality that conflicts with the other's personality. The husband should always remember that if he doesn't like some things in his wife, then indeed she will have other characteristics that are definitely pleasing to him.
 
Do not look for the errors of your wife and recount them to her, for too much blaming and reprimanding will worsen the relationship between the two of you, and it will pose a threat to your marital life. So overlook each other's mistakes.
 
If you are able, do not hold back from providing your wife with good clothing and food, and from being generous in spending money on her. This is of course according to the extent of your ability.
 
Do not belittle the importance of correcting your wife if she does things that go against the Religion. This should be the main, if not the only reason that should cause you to become angry.
 
The woman is the head of the household, the one responsible for it. So do not attempt to meddle into affairs that do not fall into your area of duties and responsibilities, such as the food and the upkeep of the house.
 
Beware of scolding your wife in presence of others, even if they are your own children. For indeed that is unsuitable behavior that turn the hearts of people against each other.
 
Having protective jealousy and caring about the modesty of your wife is a praiseworthy thing, which shows your love for her. However it is on the condition that you do not go to great lengths in this jealousy. For then at that point, it would turn into something worthy of no praise.
 
Beware of divulging any secrets connected with the intimate encounters you have with your wife, for that is something restricted and forbidden.
 
Constantly maintain the cleaning of your mouth and the freshening of your breath.
 
Guardianship of your wife doesn't mean that you can exploit what Allah has bestowed upon you from taking charge of her, such that you harm and oppress her.
 
Showing respect and kindness to your wife's family is showing respect and kindness to her. And this applies even after her death.
 
Too much joking will lead to (your family having) little fear (of disobeying you) and a lack of respect for you. So do not joke too much and lose respect.
 
Fulfilling the conditions that you promised your wife in the marriage contract is very important.. So do not neglect that after getting married.
 
When you advise her or simply talk to her, choose the kindest and nicest of words and expressions. It is not proper for you to ask your wife to look for work outside the house or to spend upon you from her wealth.
 
Do not overburden your wife with chores that she is not able to handle. Consider, with extreme regard, the environment she was raised up in. Work in rural atmosphere is not like that in urban places. What a strong woman is prepared for and able to do, cannot be done by a weak woman.

Saturday, October 2, 2010

50 things to know about marriage

1. Great relationships don't just happen; they are created. You have to work at it.

2. If your job takes all of your best energy, your marriage will suffer.

3. One of the greatest gifts you can give your spouse is your own happiness.

4. It is possible to love and hate someone at the same time.

5. When you complain about your spouse to your friends (which you shouldn't), remember that their feedback can be distorted.

6. The only rules in your marriage are those you both choose to agree with.

7. It is not conflict that destroys marriage; it is the cold, smoldering resentment that you hold for a long time.

8. It's not what you've got, it's what you do with what you have.

9. If you think you are too good for your spouse, think again.

10. Growing up in a happy household doesn't ensure a happy marriage, or vice versa.

11. It's never too late to repair damaged trust.

12. The real issue is usually not the one you are arguing about.

13. Love isn't just a feeling; it is expressed through our actions.

14. Expectations set us up for disappointment and resentment.

15. Arguments cannot be avoided, but destructive arguments can be avoided.

16. One of the greatest gifts you can give your spouse is focused attention.

17. Even people with happy marriages sometimes worry that they married the wrong person.

18. Your spouse cannot rescue you from unhappiness, but they can help you rescue yourself.

19. The cost of a lie is far greater than any advantage you gain from speaking it.

20. Your opinion is not necessarily the truth.

21. Trust takes years to establish and moments to destroy.

22. Guilt-tripping won't get you what you really want.

23. Don't neglect your friends.

24. If you think, "You are not the person I married," you are probably right.

25. Resisting the temptation to prove your point will win you a lot of points.

26. Generosity of spirit is the foundation of a good marriage.

27. If your spouse is being defensive, you might be giving them reasons to be like that.

28. Marriage isn't 50/50; it's 100/100.

29. You can pay now or pay later, but the later you pay, the more interest and penalties you acquire.

30. Marriage requires sacrifice, but your benefits outweigh your costs.

31. Forgiveness isn't a one-time event; it's a continuous process.

32. Accepting the challenges of marriage will shape you into a better person.

33. Creating a marriage is like launching a rocket: once it clears the pull of gravity, it takes much less energy to sustain the flight.

34. A successful marriage has more to do with how you deal with your current reality than with what you've experienced in the past.

35. Don't keep feelings of gratitude to yourself.

36. There is no greater eloquence than the silence of real listening.

37. One of the greatest questions to ask your spouse is "How best can I love you?"

38. Marriage can stay fresh over time.

39. Assumptions are fine as long as you check them before acting upon them.

40. Intention may not be the only thing, but it is the most important thing.

41. Good sex won't make your marriage, but it'll help.

42. Privacy won't hurt your marriage, but secrecy will.

43. Possessiveness and jealousy are born out of fear, not love.

44. Authenticity is contagious and habit-forming.

45. If your spouse thinks something is important, then it is.

46. Marriage never outgrows the need for romance.

47. The sparkle of a new relationship is always temporary.

48. There is violence in silence when it's used as a weapon.

49. It's better to focus on what you can do to make things right, then what your partner did to make things wrong.

50. If you think marriage counseling is too expensive, try divorce.

Monday, September 27, 2010

How much of the Quran should I read daily to not be of the neglectful?

Hadhrat Abdullah ibn Mas?ood [Radhiallaahu anhu] that Rasulullah [Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam] mentioned, ?He who recites one Harf (letter) of the Qur?aan, he will receive one reward and one will be multiplied ten fold.? He further mentioned, ?I am not saying Alif-laam-meem is one letter, but alif is one letter, laam is one letter and maam is one letter.? (Tirmidhi)
 
This means that only for the recitation of Alif-laam-meem, one will get thirty rewards, and if one recites ?alhamd? he will get fifty rewards because it consists of five letters.
 
From the above narration, we learn the more Qur?aan recited by an individual, the more rewards one will attain. It was the practise of the Sahaaba [Radhiallahu anhum] that they used to complete one Qur?aan every week. For this, they have distributed the Qur?aan into seven parts which is known as Manzils or Ahzaab.
 
In the first century, the Qur?aan was distributed in Akhmaas and A?shaar.
Akhmaas ? after every five Aayaat on the side of the Qur?aan ?kh? was written.
A?shaar ? after every ten Aayaat on the side of the Qur?aan ?ashr? was written.
 
After a while, these signs were done away with and the Qur?aan was then distributed according to its subjects, composition and stories, etc. The distribution is called Rukus and on the side of the Qur?aan to signify a Ruku an ?ayn? is written. The idea of this distribution was so that the Qur?aan be distributed in a very moderate amount so that one may recite that amount in one Rakaat of Salaat. It is for this reason it is called Ruku because it is here where a person will go into Ruku. In the entire Qur?aan, there are 540 Rukus.
 
There is no specific amount for one to recite daily. However, one should remember ? the more he recites, the more reward he will attain.
 
Hadhrat Imaam Abu Hanifa [ra] has mentioned, ?It is the right of the Qur?aan, then we at least complete it twice every year. Once in the month of Ramadhaan and once in the remaining months of the year.?
 
and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best
 
Qari Ismail Abdul-Aziz
FACULTY OF SPECIALTY IN QUR?AANIC SCIENCES AND RECITATIONS
 
checked & approved by: MUFTI EBRAHIM DESAI (FATWA DEPT.)
 
Reproduced from: http://www.islam.tc/cgi-bin/askimam/ask.pl?q=11284&act=view

Saturday, July 31, 2010

Friday, July 30, 2010

Akhlaq-e-Nabvi - Edited

  1. Aala nasab
  2. Aala hasab
  3. Qaum ashraf
  4. Qabeela ashraf
  5. Khandan ashraf
  6. Aapka naam ahrmed rakha gaya jis ka matlab hai sabse zyada qabil-e-tareef
  7. Aap sabse zyada sakhee (generous) thay
  8. Sabse zyada bahadur thay
  9. Sabse zyada duniya se be-raghbat (indifferent) thay
  10. Sabse zyada maharbaan thay
  11. Sabse zyada khubsoorat chehre wale thay
  12. Yaani sirf akhlaaqi aitbaar se hi khubsoorat nhi thay, Allah ne aapko shakl-o-soorat bhi behad haseen di thi
  13. Sabse behtreen akhlaaq ke haamil thay
  14. Bohat naram dil wale thay
  15. Nihayat maharbaan dost thay
  16. Tamaam jahan walo ke liye rahmat bana kar bheje gaye thay
  17. Kasrat se zikr-e-ilaahi karte thay
  18. Aap har waqt allah ko yaad karte aur kasrat se tasbeeh aur istighfaar karte
  19. Ek din mein 70-100 times istighfaar karte
  20. Jab kabhi ghamgeen hote to ya hayyu ya qayyoomu birahmatika astaghees parh allah se fariyad karte
  21. Aap apne waqt per namaz parhte thay
  22. Aap raat ka ek taveel hissa qayaam karte thay means kharre ho kar namaz parhte thay
  23. Namaz mein quran ko thahar thahar kar parhte thay
  24. Aayat-e-rahmat per ruk kar allah se rahmat maangte aur aayat-e-azaab per ruk kar allah se panah maangte
  25. Itni ibaadat karte ke pair sooj jaate aur farmate ke kya main allah ka shukr guzaar banda na banu
  26. Lekin logo ko halki namaz parhaate
  27. Namaz ke dauraan agar bachche ke rone ki awaz aati to namaz ko mukhtasar kar dete
  28. Beemar hote to baith kar namaz parhte lekin namaz chhorrte nhi thay
  29. Safar mein namaz-e-qasr ada karte
  30. Din charhne per nama-e-chasht ada karte
  31. Larrai mein fatah hoti ya koi khushi naseeb hoti to fauran sajda karte
  32. Yaani har aham kaam mein fauran namaz ki taraf daurrte
  33. Ramzan ke maheene mein nek kaamo mein bohat barh jaate thay khusoosan sadqa aur khairaat karne mein tez aandhi se bhi zyada barh jaate
  34. Jibreel (AS) ke saath quran ka daur karte
  35. Jaise hi ramzan ka akhri ashra shuru hota to aap khud bhi jaagte aur apne gharwalo ko bhi jaate
  36. Har saal aitkaaf karte
  37. Ramzan ke alawa shaban mein bhi kasrat se roze rakhte
  38. Baaqi maheeno mein bhi bohat roze rakhte
  39. Kabhi lagatar itne roze rakhte ke lagta tha ke abb kabhi aap roza nhi chhorrenge
  40. Aur jabb nahin rakhte to aisa lagta tha ke abb kabhi nhi rakhenge
  41. Chand ki 13, 14, 15/monday/thursday/10 Muharram aur ashra-e-dilhijah ke roze rakhte
  42. Shawwal ke 6 rozo ka bhi ahtamaam farmaate
  43. Roza aksar khajoor se iftaar karte
  44. Eid per ghusl karte
  45. Behtreen libaas pahante
  46. Eid ke liye paidal aate aur jaate
  47. Khwateen ko bhi eidgaah jaane ka hukm dete
  48. Eid-ul-fitr ke din meethi cheez khaa kar namaz ke liye jaate
  49. Eid-ul-azha ke mauqe per har saal qurbaani karte
  50. Khud bhi sadqa karte aur doosro ko bhi sadqa karne ka hukm dete
  51. Koi cheez kal ke liye bacha kar nhi rakhte thay
  52. Koi sadqa le kar aata to uss ko dua dete
  53. Kisi mangne wale ko inkaar na karte
  54. Agar kuchh dene ke liye paas kuchh na hota to khamoshi ikhtiyaar karte
  55. Kisi ko hadiya keh kar dete to kisi ko kuchh hiba kar dete
  56. Kabhi khareed-o-farokht mein zyada adayegi karte
  57. Qarz lete to zyada lautaate hanlanki maal ka zaaya karna bilkul pasand na tha
  58. Gharwalo ki khidmat karne ko aib mahsoos na karte
  59. Aap apna joota khud see lete thay matlab usay khud hi repair kar lete thay
  60. Paani bharne ke dol ko bhi khud hi repair kar lete thay
  61. Apne kapdo per bhi khud hi paiband laga lete aur see lete thay
  62. Kapdo per lagi hui chhoti moti gandgi jaise baal ya keerre etc khud hi saaf kar lete
  63. Apne haath se bakri ka doodh nikaal lete thay
  64. Oral hygeine ka bohat khyal rakhte thay
  65. Subah so kar uthte to sabse pehle miswak karte
  66. Ghar mein enter karte to pehla kaam miswak karna hota
  67. Sote waqt bhi miswak aapke paas hota
  68. Jo shakhs raat ko wuzu karke sota hai to poori raat farishte uss ke liye rahmat ki duayein karte hain
  69. Aap (saw) har namaz ke liye alag wuzu karte
  70. Wuzu ka aaghaaz bismillah se karte aur kabhi ek hi wuzu se kayi namazein bhi parh lete
  71. Wuzu mein paani ke israaf (wastage) se bachte
  72. Right hand se khaate
  73. Apne saamne ki side se khaate
  74. 3 ungliyon se khaate
  75. Khaane ke baad ungliyaan chaat lete
  76. Khaane khaate hue tek na lagate
  77. Let ke bhi nhi khaate thay
  78. Zameen per baithte aur khaate thay
  79. Koi bhi cheez uss waqt tak na khaate thay jabb tak ke confirm na ho ke kya hai
  80. Kisi khaane mein aib nahi nikaalte
  81. Khaane ke baad alhamdulillah kehte
  82. Makkhan aur khajoor pasand farmaate
  83. Bohat hot drinks nahin peete thay
  84. Peene mein sabse zyada pasandeeda thandi aur meethi cheez hoti jaise sharbat
  85. Paani right hand se 3 saans mein peete
  86. Khaane mein doosro ko shareek karna pasand karte
  87. Hazrat Anas(ra) se farmate ke dekho agar koi mere saath khaane mein shaamil ho jaye
  88. Kabhi bistar per sote to kabhi zameen per
  89. Dahini (right) karwat se sote
  90. Leather ka takiya aur bistar istemaan karte jis mein khajoor ki chhaal bhari hoti
  91. Isha ki namaz se pehle sona pasand nahin farmaate thay
  92. Raat sone se pehle surma lagaate aur dua parh kar sote aur dua parhte hue jaagte
  93. Aapki chaal ba-waqaar aur pur-sukoon thi
  94. Jab chalte to peechhay murr kar nahi dekhte thay
  95. Kabhi joota pahan kar aur kabhi nange pair bhi chalte
  96. Ye baat aap (saw) ko napasand thi ke koi aapke peechhay chale
  97. Jis tarah ka bhi kapda mayassar hota pahan lete
  98. Achchhe se achchha bhi aur paiband laga kapda bhi pahan lete
  99. Dikhaawe ke liye kapda pahanna pasand nahi farmaate thay
  100. Mardo ko resham pahanne se mana karte
  101. Kurta pasandeeda libaas tha
  102. Poori aasteen zeb-e-tan farmaate
  103. Umaama kabhi topi ke saath aur kabbi baghair topi ke istemaal farmaate
  104. Chandi ki angoothi pahante
  105. Zyadatar green color pasand tha
  106. Ghorre oont gadhe aur khachchar etc sab per sawari kar lete
  107. Kabhi apne aage ya peechhhe kisi aur ko bhi saath bitha lete
  108. Aksar sawari per nafil namaz ada karte
  109. Thursday ke din safar karna pasand karte
  110. Safar se wapsi per ghar jaane se pehle masjid mein 2 rakat namaz ada karte
  111. Mulaqat ke mauqe per salam mein pahal karte aur musafa karte
  112. Jab tak doosra shakhs haath na chhorrta aap bhi nhi chhorrte
  113. Salam ka jawab zabaan se dete sirf ishaare se nahin
  114. Mulaqat ke waqt baat ko dhyan se sunte
  115. Jab aap kisi majlis mein tashreef farma hote to jis baat per log taajjub karte uss baat per aap bhi taajjub karte
  116. Majlis mein jab koi hansta to aap bhi muskuraate yaani mood off karke ya bilkul chup kar ke nhi baithe rehte thay
  117. Kabhi koi baahar ka aadmi sakht kalaami karta to tahammul se kaam lete aur sakht jawab nahin dete
  118. Ehsaan ka badla dene wale ke siwa kisi ki tareef pasand na karte
  119. Zaroorat se zyada tarreef bhi napasand thi
  120. Kisi majme mein jaate to jahan jagah milti wahin baith jate
  121. Chheenk aane per awaz ahista ka lete aur alhamdulillah kehte
  122. Koi aur chheenkta to jawab bhi dete yaani ke yarhamukallah kehte
  123. Chehre ko haath ya kapde se dhaanp lete
  124. Jamhaai (yawning) ke waqt bhi aisa hi karte ya rok lete
  125. Majlis ke ikhtitaam () per Allah ka zikr karte
  126. Aap (SAW) kasrat se Allah ka zikr karne waale thay aur aapke kalaam mein laghw aur bekar baatein na thi
  127. Aap (SAW) ka kalaam waazeh (clear/understandable) tha.
  128. Samjhane ke liye thahar thahar kar bolte thay
  129. Baat ko 3 baar dohraate thay
  130. Is tarah bolte ke sunne wala baat poori tarah samajh jaata
  131. Aisi guftgu farmaate ke agar koi alfaaz (words) ko ginna chaahta to gin sakta tha
  132. Aap (SAW) baat utni karte jitni zaroori hoti
  133. Aap (SAW) ko bohat zyada sawaal (questioning) aur qeel-o-qaal (gossips) pasand nahi thay.
  134. Aap (SAW) ki guftgu mein kisi ki na to gheebat hoti aur na hi taane hote.
  135. Aap (SAW) kisi ke aib nahi ginwaate thay
  136. Aap (SAW) kisi ke androoni baaton (internal/personal affairs) ki toh mein na rehte thay
  137. Baat wahi karte jis se koi mufeed (beneficial) nateeja nikal sake
  138. Aap (SAW) zyadatar khamosh rehte aur kam hanste lekin bohat khushmizaaj thay
  139. Khush hote to aap (SAW) ka chehra mubarak chamak uthta tha aur jab naraz hote to chehre per narazgi ka izhaar hote means jo dil mein hota wahi baahar hota
  140. Na khushi mein kehkahe thay aur na rone mein cheekh pukaar thi. Bass ankhon ashqbaar hoti yaani aansu aa jaate
  141. Hazrat Jareer (RA) farmate hain ke aapne kabhi mujhe apne paas aane se nahin roka aur kabhi aisa nahin hua ke maine aapko dekha ho aur aap muskuraaye na ho
  142. Aap (SAW) ka akhlaaq Quran tha yaani ke Aap (SAW) chalta phirta quran thay
  143. Hamesha sach bolte aur jhooth se nafrat karte
  144. Waade ki paabandi karte
  145. Haq ki himayat karte
  146. Bohat bahadur aur nidar thay
  147. Mushkilat aur pareshani mein sabr karne wale thay
  148. Baa-parda kunwati larrki se zyada hayadaat thay
  149. Jo aapko dekhta aapka rob uss per parrta lekin jaise jaise aashna (acquented) hote aapse mohabbat karne lagta
  150. Aap narm mizaaj thay. Sakht mizaaj na thay.
  151. Dunkiya aur uss ki cheezein ghussa na dila sakti thi
  152. Agar koi haq ki mukhaalifat karta tab hi ghussa karte
  153. Zaati (personal) maamlo mein kabhi ghussa na karte aur na hi kabhi intiqaam liya.
  154. Barri se barri sakht baat per aap tahammul se kaam lete
  155. Burai ka badla burai se na dete thay balki maaf farma dete aur darguzar kar dete thay.
  156. Azwaj-e-Mutahharaat (His (SAW) wives) ke saath nihayat achchha bartaaw tha
  157. Unn se achchhe akhlaaq se pesh aate
  158. Hazrat Aisha (RA) ko Aa-ish keh kar pukaarte
  159. Ek jagah khaana khaate
  160. Ek bartan se ghusl kar lete
  161. Unn ki god mein tek lagate aur quran parhte
  162. Hazrat Aisha ke saath daurh (running) ka muqabla kiya to ek baar wo aage nikal gayi aur doosri dafa Aap (SAW) unn se aage nikal gaye
  163. Azwaj-e-Mutahharat ke saath adl-o-insaaf ka maamla karte
  164. Bachcho ke saath intahaai shafqat se pesh aate
  165. Unn ke paas se ghuzarte to khud salaam karte
  166. Fatima (RA) aati to unn ke haath aur maatha chumte phir khaas jagah per bithaate
  167. Hazrat Hassan (RA) bin Ali (Ra) ke liye apni zabaan nikaalte to wo apko dekh kar muskuraate yaani bachcho ke saath bachcho ki tarah maamla karte
  168. Aap namaz parh rahe hote aur Hasan (RA) aur Hussain (RA) khel rahe hote aur aapki peeth (back) per sawaat ho jaate jabb aap sajde mein jaate
  169. Umaama jo aapki nawasi thi kandhe per hoti aur aap (SAW) namaz parha rahe hote
  170. Fajr ki namaz ke baad masjid mein saathiyon ke saath baith jaate
  171. Unn ki baatein sunte. Koi khwaab sunaata to uss ka matlab bayaan karte. Sher (poetry) bhi sunte aur uss per inaam bhi dete
  172. Ghaneemat ya sadqa baantte. Hadiya qubool karte aur badle mein bhi dete.
  173. Khushbu bohat pasand thi. Iss liye khushbu ka tohfa kabhi radd na karte
  174. Achchhe naam pasand karte aur bure naam badal dete
  175. Mehmaan nawazi mein bohat aage rehte
  176. Khud bhi mehman nawaazi farmaate
  177. Kabhi aisa bhi hota ke ghar mein saara khaana mehmaan ki nazar ho jaata aur ghar wale khud faaqa karte
  178. Dawat bhi qubool karte
  179. Agar koi ghulaam bhi Jou ki roti ki dawat karte to qubool farmaate yaani mamooli se mamooli cheez ki bhi dawat qubool farmaate
  180. Logo ki hidaayat ke liye tadapte
  181. Aap farmaate thay
    [Yassiru wa la tuassiru] Aasani kiya karo, mushkil paida na kiya karo
    [Bashshiru wa la tunaffiru] khushkhabri diya karo aur nafrat na dilaaya karo
  182. koi do baaton mein selection karna hota to aasan ko select karte basharte ke gunah na ho
  183. Aap (SAW) ne kabhi kisi pe apna haath nhi uthaaya aur na kisi ki tauheen ki
  184. Logo ko aapse door nhi kiya jaata tha
  185. Aap (SAW) ke liye hato bacho ki awazein nhi aati thi
  186. Aur na logo ko aapse mar mar kar door kiya jaata
  187. Kisi muhim per logo ko rawana karte hue ameer-e-karwan ko dua dete aur naseehat karte
  188. Miskeeno ke kaam aate aur yateemo ki sarparasti karte
  189. Maqroozo ko qarz utaarne mein madad karte
  190. Ghulamo ke saath husn-e-sulook karte aur unhe azad karte aur azar karne ki takeed farmate
  191. Miskeeno aur bebaso ke saath aise baithte ke koi aapko pehchaan nahi sakta tha
  192. Bewaon (widows) aur miskeeno ki zarooratein poori karne ke liye unn ke saath jaate
  193. Ek maamuli laundi (female ghulaam) apne masail ke solution ke liye aapka haath pakad kar aapko jahan chaahti le jaati
  194. Aap ghareeb logo ki baat bhi iss tarah sunte thay jaise kisi bohat important shakhsiyat ki sun rahe ho
  195. Jab koi maangne wala ya zarooratmand aata to sathiyon ko nekiyon mein shareek karte
  196. Logo ke gham mein shareek rehte aur kamzor musalmaano se khud milne jaate
  197. Unn ki iyaadat ke liye jaate, dua farmaate aur unn ka janaza bhi parhte
  198. Jaanwaro per bhi khaas rehmat aur shafqat farmaate
  199. Darakhton (Trees) ko bina wajah kaatne aur khetiyaan kharaab karne se mana farmaate thay

Wednesday, July 14, 2010

Deeds that wash away our sins

The following are some statements of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) on what deeds could lead to forgiveness of our past and future sins. The statements were collected in the book Al-Bihar Az-Zakhirah fi Asbab Al-Maghfirah
  1. Perfecting one's ablution
    "No worshipper perfects his ablution except that his past and future sins are forgiven." (Hasan, Al-Bazzar. Al-Haythami and Al-Mundhiri agreed upon.)
  2. Fasting in Ramadan
    "Whoever fasts Ramadan out of faith and seeking Allah's reward then his past and future sins are forgiven." (Ahmad)
  3. Night prayer in Ramadan
    "Whoever stands (in prayer) in Ramadan out of faith and seeking Allah's reward then his past and future sins are forgiven." (Sahih An-Nasa'i)
  4. Night of Al-Qadr
    Laylat-ul-Qadr or the Night of Al-Qadr can be expected in the odd nights of the last 10 days of Ramadan. He who performs the night prayer in it out of belief and seeking Allah's reward his past and future sins are forgiven. (Ahmad)
  5. Thanking Allah after eating and putting one's clothes on
    "Whoever ate food and then said, 'Praise be to Allah who has fed me this food and provided it for me, without any strength or power on my part', is forgiven his past (and future*) sins. And whoever wears a garment and says, 'Praise be to Allah who has clothed me with this (garment) and provided it for me, without any strength or power on my part', is forgiven his past and future sins." (Ibn Majah, Abu Dawood, Al-Tirmidhi, An-Nasa'i, and others)
    The addition marked by (*) is related by Abu Dawood. Sheikh Al-Albani declared it Hasan in Sahih Al-Jami (no. 6086).
  6. Getting old in Islam
    "No one reaches 40 years in Islam except that Allah protects him from madness, leprosy and leucoderma. When he is 50, Allah makes his reckoning easy. When he reaches 60, Allah grants him repentance. And when he reaches 70, Allah loves him and the inhabitants of the heavens love him.
    And when he reaches 80, Allah accepts his good deeds and overlooks his sins. When he reaches 90, Allah forgives his past and future sins, and he is named 'the prisoner of Allah on earth' and is granted intercession (for forgiveness) for his family." (Hasan, Ibn Asakir. Ahmad Shakir said in his notes on Al-Musnad, 8/23, 25: "Its chain is at least Hasan. It is supported with other chains which raise it to the level of Sahih.")
  7. Neither Ruqya nor belief in bad omens
    "I was told: 'These are your people and amongst them there are 70,000 who shall enter Paradise without being taken to either account or torment.' …'They are those who do not make Ruqya nor seek it, nor believe in bad omens, but trust in their Lord (Allah).'" (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
  8. Patiently bearing children's death
    "Whoever buries three children, Allah will forbid the (Hell) Fire for him." (Sahih, Tabarani in Al-Kabeer, Al-Albani authenticated it in Sahih Al-Jami, no. 6238)
    "There are no two Muslim parents whose three children die before reaching puberty except that Allah will enter them into Paradise due to His mercy to the children.
    It will be said to them, 'Enter the Paradise,' so they will say, 'Not until our parents enter first.' It will be said, 'Enter the Paradise you and your parents.' (Ahmad and An-Nasa'i; Al-Albani authenticated it in Sahih Al-Jami, no. 5780)

    "Whoever remains content and patient after the death of three of his offspring will enter Jannah."

    A woman said, "What about two?" The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, "And two." (Sahih, An-Nasa'i and Ibn Hibban; authenticated by Al-Albani in Sahih Al-Jami, no. 5969)
  9. Raising three daughters
    "There is no one from my Ummah who takes care of three daughters or three sisters, and is nice to them, except that they will be a screen (protection) for him from the Fire." (Sahih, Al-Bayhaqi and Al-Bukhari in Al-Adab, authenticated by Al-Albani in Sahih Al-Jami, no. 5372)
  10. Defending a Muslim's honor
    "Whoever defends the honor of his brother in absence has the right with Allah to be freed from the Fire." (Sahih, Ahmad and Al-Tabarani; authenticated by Al-Albani in Sahih Al-Jami, no. 6240)
  11. Sincerity to Allah
    No servant who says 'La ilaha ill Allah', seeking the pleasure of Allah, will reach the Day of Judgment, except that Allah will forbid the Fire for him. (Ahmad and Al-Bukhari) Hafidh Ibn Hajr said, "It's not like that (i.e. not entering the Fire at all) for everyone who believed in Tawheed and worshiped, but it is specific for the sincere, and sincerity (Ikhlas) requires the realization of its meaning by the heart. One cannot imagine that the heart will reach that while persisting in sins, as the heart would be filled with the love and fear of Allah, whereupon limbs will embark upon obedience and leave disobedience."
  12. Crying out of fear of Allah
    "No man who cried out of fear of Allah will enter the Fire until the milk returns to the udder, and dust in the path of Allah (Jihad) and the smoke of the Fire cannot go together." (Ahmad, Al-Tirmidhi, and An-Nasa'i; authenticated by Al-Albani in Sahih Al-Jami, no. 7778)
  13. Congregational prayer for 40 days
    "Whoever prays to Allah for 40 days in congregation, reaching the opening Takbeer (Takbeer Al-Ihram), will have two (rewards)written for him: freedom from the Fire and freedom from hypocrisy." (Al-Tirmidhi, declared Hasan by Al-Albani in Sahih Al-Jami, no. 6365)
  14. Praying four Rak`at before and after Dhuhr
    "Whoever is consistent in praying four units of prayer before Dhuhr and four after it, Fire will be forbidden for him." (Sahih, Abu Dawood, An-Nasa'i, Al-Tirmidhi, and Ibn Majah; authenticated by Al-Albani in Sahih Al-Jami, no. 6195)
  15. Praying before sunrise and after sunset
    "No one will enter Fire who prays before sunrise and after sunset." (Ahmad, Muslim, Abu Dawood, and An-Nasa'i; meaning: Fajr and Asr prayers)
  16. Good character
    "Whoever is easy-going, easy to deal with and kindhearted, Allah will forbid the Fire for him." (Sahih, Al-Hakim in Al-Mustadrak, Al-Bayhaqi, Al-Tabarani; authenticated by Al-Albani in Sahih Al-Jami, no. 6484)

Monday, July 12, 2010

1000 English Proverbs and Sayings

1. A bad beginning makes a bad ending.
2. A bad corn promise is better than a good lawsuit.
3. A bad workman quarrels with his tools.
4. A bargain is a bargain.
5. A beggar can never be bankrupt.
6. A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.
7. A bird may be known by its song.
8. A black hen lays a white egg.
9. A blind leader of the blind.
10. A blind man would be glad to see.
11. A broken friendship may be soldered, but will never be sound.
12. A burden of one's own choice is not felt.
13. A burnt child dreads the fire.
14. A cat in gloves catches no mice.
15. A city that parleys is half gotten.
16. A civil denial is better than a rude grant.
17. A clean fast is better than a dirty breakfast.
18. A clean hand wants no washing.
19. A clear conscience laughs at false accusations.
20. A close mouth catches no flies.
21. A cock is valiant on his own dunghill.
22. A cracked bell can never sound well.
23. A creaking door hangs long on its hinges.
24. A curst cow has short horns.
25. A danger foreseen is half avoided.
26. A drop in the bucket.
27. A drowning man will catch at a straw.
28. A fair face may hide a foul heart.
29. A fault confessed is half redressed.
30. A fly in the ointment.
31. A fool always rushes to the fore.
32. A fool and his money are soon parted.
33. A fool at forty is a fool indeed.
34. A fool may ask more questions in an hour than a wise man can answer in seven years.
35. A fool may throw a stone into a well which a hundred wise men cannot pull out.
36. A fool's tongue runs before his wit.
37. A forced kindness deserves no thanks.
38. A foul morn may turn to a fair day.
39. A fox is not taken twice in the same snare.
40. A friend in need is a friend indeed.
43. A friend is never known till needed.
42. A friend to all is a friend to none.
43. A friend's frown is better than a foe's smile.
44. A good anvil does not fear the hammer.
45. A good beginning is half the battle.
46. A good beginning makes a good ending.
47. A good deed is never lost.
48. A good dog deserves a good bone.
49. A good example is the best sermon.
50. A good face is a letter of recommendation.
51. A good Jack makes a good Jill.
52. A good marksman may miss.
53. A good name is better than riches.
54. A good name is sooner lost than won.
55. A good name keeps its lustre in the dark.
56. A good wife makes a good husband.
57. A great dowry is a bed full of brambles.
58. A great fortune is a great slavery.
59. A great ship asks deep waters.
60. A guilty conscience needs no accuser.
61. A hard nut to crack.
62. A heavy purse makes a light heart.
63. A hedge between keeps friendship green.
64. A honey tongue, a heart of gall.
65. A hungry belly has no ears.
66. A hungry man is an angry man.
67. A Jack of all trades is master of none.
68. A Joke never gains an enemy but often loses a friend.
69. A lawyer never goes to law himself.
70. A lazy sheep thinks its wool heavy.
71. A liar is not believed when he speaks the truth.
72. A lie begets a lie.
73. A light purse is a heavy curse.
74. A light purse makes a heavy heart.
75. A little body often harbours a great soul.
76. A little fire is quickly trodden out.
77. A man can die but once.
78. A man can do no more than he can.
79. A man is known by the company he keeps.
80. A man of words and not of deeds is like a garden full of weeds.
81. A miserly father makes a prodigal son.
82. A miss is as good as a mile.
83. A new broom sweeps clean.
84. A nod from a lord is a breakfast for a fool.
85. A penny saved is a penny gained.
86. A penny soul never came to twopence.
87. A quiet conscience sleeps in thunder.
88. A rolling stone gathers no moss.
89. A round peg in a square hole.
90. A shy cat makes a proud mouse.
91. A silent fool is counted wise.
92. A small leak will sink a great ship.
93. A soft answer turns away wrath.
94. A sound mind in a sound body.
95. A stitch in time saves nine.
96. A storm in a teacup.
97. A tattler is worse than a thief.
98. A thief knows a thief as a wolf knows a wolf.
99. A thief passes for a gentleman when stealing has made him rich.
100. A threatened blow is seldom given.
101. A tree is known by its fruit.
102. A wager is a fool's argument.
103. A watched pot never boils.
104. A wise man changes his mind, a fool never will.
105. A wolf in sheep's clothing.
106. A wonder lasts but nine days.
107. A word is enough to the wise.
108. A word spoken is past recalling.
109. Actions speak louder than words.
110. Adversity is a great schoolmaster.
111. Adversity makes strange bedfellows.
112. After a storm comes a calm.
113. After dinner comes the reckoning.
114. After dinner sit (sleep) a while, after supper walk a mile.
115. After rain comes fair weather.
116. After us the deluge.
117. Agues come on horseback, but go away on foot.
118. All are good lasses, but whence come the bad wives?
119. All are not friends that speak us fair.
120. All are not hunters that blow the horn.
121. All are not merry that dance lightly.
122. All are not saints that go to church.
123. All asses wag their ears.
124. All bread is not baked in one oven.
125. All cats are grey in the dark (in the night).
126. All covet, all lose.
127. All doors open to courtesy.
128. All is fish that comes to his net.
129. All is not lost that is in peril.
130. All is well that ends well.
131. All lay load on the willing horse.
132. All men can't be first.
133. All men can't be masters.
134. All promises are either broken or kept.
135. All roads lead to Rome .
136. All sugar and honey.
137. All that glitters is not gold.
138. All things are difficult before they are easy.
139. All truths are not to be told.
140. All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.
141. "Almost" never killed a fly (was never hanged).
142. Among the blind the one-eyed man is king.
143. An apple a day keeps the doctor away.
144. An ass in a lion's skin.
145. An ass is but an ass, though laden with gold.
146. An ass loaded with gold climbs to the top of the castle.
147. An empty hand is no lure for a hawk.
148. An empty sack cannot stand upright.
149. An empty vessel gives a greater sound than a full barrel.
150. An evil chance seldom comes alone.
151. An honest tale speeds best, being plainly told.
152. An hour in the morning is worth two in the evening.
153. An idle brain is the devil's workshop.
154. An ill wound is cured, not an ill name.
155. An oak is not felled at one stroke.
156. An old dog barks not in vain.
157. An open door may tempt a saint.
158. An ounce of discretion is worth a pound of learning.
159. An ox is taken by the horns, and a man by the tongue.
160. An unfortunate man would be drowned in a teacup.
161. Anger and haste hinder good counsel.
162. Any port in a storm.
163. Appearances are deceitful.
164. Appetite comes with eating.
165. As drunk as a lord.
166. As innocent as a babe unborn.
167. As like as an apple to an oyster.
168. As like as two peas.
169. As old as the hills.
170. As plain as the nose on a man's face.
171. As plain as two and two make four.
172. As snug as a bug in a rug .
173. As sure as eggs is eggs.
174. As the call, so the echo.
175. As the fool thinks, so the bell clinks.
176. As the old cock crows, so does the young.
177. As the tree falls, so shall it lie.
178. As the tree, so the fruit.
179. As welcome as flowers in May.
180. As welcome as water in one's shoes.
181. As well be hanged for a sheep as for a lamb.
182. As you brew, so must you drink.
183. As you make your bed, so must you lie on it.
184. As you sow, so shall you reap.
185. Ask no questions and you will be told no lies.
186. At the ends of the earth.
187. Bacchus has drowned more men than Neptune .
188. Bad news has wings.
189. Barking does seldom bite.
190. Be slow to promise and quick to perform.
191. Be swift to hear, slow to speak.
192. Beauty is but skin-deep.
193. Beauty lies in lover's eyes.
194. Before one can say Jack Robinson.
195. Before you make a friend eat a bushel of salt with him.
196. Beggars cannot be choosers.
197. Believe not all that you see nor half what you hear.
198. Best defence is offence.
199. Better a glorious death than a shameful life.
200. Better a lean peace than a fat victory.
201. Better a little fire to warm us, than a great one to burn us.
202. Better an egg today than a hen tomorrow.
203. Better an open enemy than a false friend.
204. Better be alone than in bad company.
205. Better be born lucky than rich.
206. Better be envied than pitied.
207. Better be the head of a dog than the tail of a lion.
208. Better deny at once than promise long.
209. Better die standing than live kneeling.
210. Better early than late.
211. Better give a shilling than lend a half-crown.
212. Better go to bed supperless than rise in debt.
213. Better late than never.
214. Better lose a jest than a friend.
215. Better one-eyed than stone-blind.
216. Better the devil you know than the devil you don't.
217. Better the foot slip than the tongue.
218. Better to do well than to say well.
219. Better to reign in hell, than serve in heaven.
220. Better unborn than untaught.
221. Better untaught than ill-taught.
222. Between the cup and the lip a morsel may slip.
223. Between the devil and the deep (blue) sea.
224. Between two evils 'tis not worth choosing.
225. Between two stools one goes (falls) to the ground.
226. Between the upper and nether millstone.
227. Betwixt and between.
228. Beware of a silent dog and still water.
229. Bind the sack before it be full.
230. Birds of a feather flock together.
231. Blind men can judge no colours.
232. Blood is thicker than water.
233. Borrowed garments never fit well.
234. Brevity is the soul of wit.
235. Burn not your house to rid it of the mouse.
236. Business before pleasure.
237. By doing nothing we learn to do ill.
238. By hook or by crook.
239. By the street of 'by-and-bye' one arrives at the house of 'Never'.
240. Calamity is man's true touchstone.
241. Care killed the cat.
242. Catch the bear before you sell his skin.
243. Caution is the parent of safety.
244. Charity begins at home.
245. Cheapest is the dearest.
246. Cheek brings success.
247. Children and fools must not play with edged tools.
248. Children are poor men's riches.
249. Choose an author as you choose a friend.
250. Christmas comes but once a year, (but when it comes it brings good cheer).
251. Circumstances alter cases.
252. Claw me, and I will claw thee.
253. Cleanliness is next to godliness.
254. Company in distress makes trouble less.
255. Confession is the first step to repentance.
256. Counsel is no command.
257. Creditors have better memories than debtors.
258. Cross the stream where it is shallowest.
259. Crows do not pick crow's eyes.
260. Curiosity killed a cat.
261. Curses like chickens come home to roost.
262. Custom is a second nature.
263. Custom is the plague of wise men and the idol of fools.
264. Cut your coat according to your cloth.
265. Death is the grand leveller.
266. Death pays all debts.
267. Death when it comes will have no denial.
268. Debt is the worst poverty.
269. Deeds, not words.
270. Delays are dangerous.
271. Desperate diseases must have desperate remedies.
272. Diligence is the mother of success (good luck).
273. Diseases are the interests of pleasures.
274. Divide and rule.
275. Do as you would be done by.
276. Dog does not eat dog.
277. Dog eats dog.
278. Dogs that put up many hares kill none.
279. Doing is better than saying.
280. Don't count your chickens before they are hatched.
281. Don't cross the bridges before you come to them.
282. Don't have thy cloak to make when it begins to rain.
283. Don't keep a dog and bark yourself.
284. Don't look a gift horse in the mouth.
285. Don't put all your eggs in one basket.
286. Don't sell the bear's skin before you've caught it.
287. Don't trouble trouble until trouble troubles you.
288. Don't whistle (halloo) until you are out of the wood.
289. Dot your i's and cross your t's.
290. Draw not your bow till your arrow is fixed.
291. Drive the nail that will go.
292. Drunken days have all their tomorrow.
293. Drunkenness reveals what soberness conceals.
294. Dumb dogs are dangerous.
295. Each bird loves to hear himself sing.
296. Early to bed and early to rise makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise.
297. Easier said than done.
298. East or West ? home is best.
299. Easy come, easy go.
300. Eat at pleasure, drink with measure.
301. Empty vessels make the greatest (the most) sound.
302. Enough is as good as a feast.
303. Envy shoots at others and wounds herself.
304. Even reckoning makes long friends.
305. Every ass loves to hear himself bray.
306. Every barber knows that.
307. Every bean has its black.
308. Every bird likes its own nest.
309. Every bullet has its billet.
310. Every country has its customs.
311. Every dark cloud has a silver lining.
312. Every day is not Sunday.
313. Every dog has his day.
314. Every dog is a lion at home.
315. Every dog is valiant at his own door.
316. Every Jack has his Jill.
317. Every man has a fool in his sleeve.
318. Every man has his faults.
319. Every man has his hobby-horse.
320. Every man is the architect of his own fortunes.
321. Every man to his taste.
322. Every miller draws water to his own mill.
323. Every mother thinks her own gosling a swan.
324. Every one's faults are not written in their foreheads.
325. Every tub must stand on its own bottom.
326. Every white has its black, and every sweet its sour.
327. Every why has a wherefore.
328. Everybody's business is nobody's business.
329. Everything comes to him who waits.
330. Everything is good in its season.
331. Evil communications corrupt good manners.
332. Experience is the mother of wisdom.
333. Experience keeps a dear school, but fools learn in no other.
334. Experience keeps no school, she teaches her pupils singly.
335. Extremes meet.
336. Facts are stubborn things.
337. Faint heart never won fair lady.
338. Fair without, foul (false) within.
339. Fair words break no bones.
340. False friends are worse than open enemies.
341. Familiarity breeds contempt.
342. Far from eye, far from heart.
343. Fasting comes after feasting.
344. Faults are thick where love is thin.
345. Feast today and fast tomorrow.
346. Fine feathers make fine birds.
347. Fine words butter no parsnips.
348. First catch your hare.
349. First come, first served.
350. First deserve and then desire.
351. First think, then speak.
352. Fish and company stink in three days.
353. Fish begins to stink at the head.
354. Follow the river and you'll get to the sea.
355. Fool's haste is no speed.
356. Fools and madmen speak the truth.
357. Fools grow without watering.
358. Fools may sometimes speak to the purpose.
359. Fools never know when they are well.
360. Fools rush in where angels fear to tread.
361. For the love of the game.
362. Forbearance is no acquittance.
363. Forbidden fruit is sweet.
364. Forewarned is forearmed.
365. Fortune favours the brave (the bold).
366. Fortune is easily found, but hard to be kept.
367. Four eyes see more (better) than two.
368. Friends are thieves of time.
369. From bad to worse.
370. From pillar to post.
371. Gentility without ability is worse than plain beggary.
372. Get a name to rise early, and you may lie all day.
373. Gifts from enemies are dangerous.
374. Give a fool rope enough, and he will hang himself.
375. Give every man thy ear, but few thy voice.
376. Give him an inch and he'll take an ell.
377. Give never the wolf the wether to keep.
378. Gluttony kills more men than the sword.
379. Go to bed with the lamb and rise with the lark.
380. Good clothes open all doors.
381. Good counsel does no harm.
382. Good health is above wealth.
383. Good masters make good servants.
384. Good words and no deeds.
385. Good words without deeds are rushes and reeds.
386. Gossiping and lying go hand in hand.
387. Grasp all, lose all.
388. Great barkers are no biters.
389. Great boast, small roast.
390. Great cry and little wool.
391. Great spenders are bad lenders.
392. Great talkers are great liars.
393. Great talkers are little doers.
394. Greedy folk have long arms.
395. Habit cures habit.
396. Half a loaf is better than no bread.
397. "Hamlet" without the Prince of Denmark .
398. Handsome is that handsome does.
399. Happiness takes no account of time.
400. Happy is he that is happy in his children.
401. Hard words break no bones.
402. Hares may pull dead lions by the beard.
403. Harm watch, harm catch.
404. Haste makes waste.
405. Hasty climbers have sudden falls.
406. Hate not at the first harm.
407. Hatred is blind, as well as love.
408. Hawks will not pick hawks' eyes.
409. He begins to die that quits his desires.
410. He cannot speak well that cannot hold his tongue.
411. He carries fire in one hand and water in the other.
412. He dances well to whom fortune pipes.
413. He gives twice who gives in a trice.
414. He goes long barefoot that waits for dead man's shoes.
415. He is a fool that forgets himself.
416. He is a good friend that speaks well of us behind our backs.
417. He is happy that thinks himself so.
418. He is lifeless that is faultless.
419. He is not fit to command others that cannot command himself.
420. He is not laughed at that laughs at himself first.
421. He is not poor that has little, but he that desires much.
422. He jests at scars that never felt a wound.
423. He knows best what good is that has endured evil.
424. He knows how many beans make five.
425. He knows much who knows how to hold his tongue.
426. He laughs best who laughs last.
427. He lives long that lives well.
428. He must needs swim that is held up by the chin.
429. He should have a long spoon that sups with the devil.
430. He smells best that smells of nothing.
431. He that comes first to the hill may sit where he will.
432. He that commits a fault thinks everyone speaks of it.
433. He that does you an i!i turn will never forgive you.
434. He that fears every bush must never go a-birding.
435. He that fears you present wiil hate you absent.
436. He that goes a borrowing, goes a sorrowing.
437. He that goes barefoot must not plant thorns.
438. He that has a full purse never wanted a friend.
439. He that has a great nose thinks everybody is speaking of it.
440. He that has an ill name is half hanged.
441. He that has no children knows not what love is.
442. He that has He head needs no hat.
443. He that has no money needs no purse.
444. He that is born to be hanged shall never be drowned.
445. He that is full of himself is very empty.
446. He that is ill to himself will be good to nobody.
447. He that is warm thinks all so.
448. He that knows nothing doubts nothing.
449. He that lies down with dogs must rise up with fleas.
450. He that lives with cripples learns to limp.
451. He that mischief hatches, mischief catches.
452. He that never climbed never fell.
453. He that once deceives is ever suspected.
454. He that promises too much means nothing.
455. He that respects not is not respected.
456. He that seeks trouble never misses.
457. He that serves everybody is paid by nobody.
458. He that serves God for money will serve the devil for better wages.
459. He that spares the bad injures the good.
460. He that talks much errs much.
461. He that talks much lies much.
462. He that will eat the kernel must crack the nut.
463. He that will not when he may, when he will he shall have nay.
464. He that will steal an egg will steal an ox.
465. He that will thrive, must rise at five.
466. He that would eat the fruit must climb the tree.
467. He that would have eggs must endure the cackling of hens.
468. He who is born a fool is never cured.
469. He who hesitates is lost.
470. He who likes borrowing dislikes paying.
471. He who makes no mistakes, makes nothing.
472. He who pleased everybody died before he was born.
473. He who says what he likes, shall hear what he doesn't like.
474. He who would catch fish must not mind getting wet.
475. He who would eat the nut must first crack the shell.
476. He who would search for pearls must dive below.
477. He will never set the Thames on fire.
478. He works best who knows his trade.
479. Head cook and bottle-washer.
480. Health is not valued till sickness comes.
481. His money burns a hole in his pocket.
482. Honesty is the best policy.
483. Honey is not for the ass's mouth.
484. Honey is sweet, but the bee stings.
485. Honour and profit lie not in one sack.
486. Honours change manners.
487. Hope is a good breakfast, but a bad supper.
488. Hope is the poor man's bread.
489. Hunger breaks stone walls.
490. Hunger finds no fault with cookery.
491. Hunger is the best sauce.
492. Hungry bellies have no ears.
493. Idle folks lack no excuses.
494. Idleness is the mother of all evil.
495. Idleness rusts the mind.
496. If an ass (donkey) bray at you, don't bray at him.
497. If ifs and ans were pots and pans...
498. If my aunt had been a man, she'd have been my uncle.
499. If the blind lead the blind, both shall fall into the ditch.
500. If the sky falls, we shall catch larks.
501. If there were no clouds, we should not enjoy the sun.
502. If things were to be done twice all would be wise.
503. If we can't as we would, we must do as we can.
504. If wishes were horses, beggars might ride.
505. If you agree to carry the calf, they'll make you carry the cow.
506. If you cannot bite, never show your teeth.
507. If you cannot have the best, make the best of what you have.
508. If you dance you must pay the fiddler.
509. If you laugh before breakfast you'll cry before supper.
510. If you run after two hares, you will catch neither.
511. If you sell the cow, you sell her milk too.
512. If you throw mud enough, some of it will stick.
513. If you try to please all you will please none.
514. If you want a thing well done, do it yourself.
515. Ill-gotten gains never prosper.
516. Ill-gotten, ill-spent.
517. In every beginning think of the end.
518. In for a penny, in for a pound.
519. In the country of the blind one-eyed man is a king.
520. In the end things will mend.
521. In the evening one may praise the day.
522. Iron hand (fist) in a velvet glove.
523. It is a good horse that never stumbles.
524. It is a long lane that has no turning.
525. It is a poor mouse that has only one hole.
526. It is an ill bird that fouls its own nest.
527. It is an ill wind that blows nobody good.
528. It is a silly fish, that is caught twice with the same bait.
529. It is easy to swim if another hoids up your chin (head).
530. It is enough to make a cat laugh.
531. It is good fishing in troubled waters.
532. It is never too late to learn.
533. It is no use crying over spilt milk.
534. It is the first step that costs.
535. It never rains but it pours.
536. It's as broad as it's long.
537. It's no use pumping a dry well.
538. It's one thing to flourish and another to fight.
539. It takes all sorts to make a world.
540. Jackdaw in peacock's feathers.
541. Jest with an ass and he will flap you in the face with his tail.
542. Judge not of men and things at first sight.
543. Just as the twig is bent, the tree is inclined.
544. Keep a thing seven years and you will find a use for it.
545. Keep your mouth shut and your ears open.
546. Keep your mouth shut and your eyes open.
547. Last, but not least.
548. Laws catch flies, but let hornets go free.
549. Learn to creep before you leap.
550. Learn to say before you sing.
551. Learn wisdom by the follies of others.
552. Least said, soonest mended.
553. Leaves without figs.
554. Let bygones be bygones.
555. Let every man praise the bridge he goes over.
556. Let sleeping dogs lie.
557. Let well (enough) alone.
558. Liars need good memories.
559. Lies have short legs.
560. Life is but a span.
561. Life is not a bed of roses.
562. Life is not all cakes and ale (beer and skittles).
563. Like a cat on hot bricks.
564. Like a needle in a haystack.
565. Like begets like.
566. Like cures like.
567. Like father, like son.
568. Like draws to like.
569. Like master, like man.
570. Like mother, like daughter.
571. Like parents, like children.
572. Like priest, like people.
573. Like teacher, like pupil.
574. Little chips light great fires.
575. Little knowledge is a dangerous thing.
576. Little pigeons can carry great messages.
577. Little pitchers have long ears.
578. Little strokes fell great oaks.
579. Little thieves are hanged, but great ones escape.
580. Little things amuse little minds.
581. Live and learn.
582. Live and let live.
583. Live not to eat, but eat to live.
584. Long absent, soon forgotten.
585. Look before you leap.
586. Look before you leap, but having leapt never look back.
587. Lookers-on see more than players.
588. Lord (God, Heaven) helps those (them) who help themselves.
589. Lost time is never found again.
590. Love cannot be forced.
591. Love in a cottage.
592. Love is blind, as well as hatred.
593. Love me, love my dog.
594. Love will creep where it may not go.
595. Make haste slowly.
596. Make hay while the sun shines.
597. Make or mar.
598. Man proposes but God disposes.
599. Many a fine dish has nothing on it.
600. Many a good cow has a bad calf.
601. Many a good father has but a bad son.
602. Many a little makes a mickle.
603. Many a true word is spoken in jest.
604. Many hands make light work.
605. Many men, many minds.
606. Many words hurt more than swords.
607. Many words will not fill a bushel.
608. Marriages are made in heaven.
609. Measure for measure.
610. Measure thrice and cut once.
611. Men may meet but mountains never.
612. Mend or end (end or mend).
613. Might goes before right.
614. Misfortunes never come alone (singly).
615. Misfortunes tell us what fortune is.
616. Money begets money.
617. Money has no smell.
618. Money is a good servant but a bad master.
619. Money often unmakes the men who make it.
620. Money spent on the brain is never spent in vain.
621. More haste, less speed.
622. Much ado about nothing.
623. Much will have more.
624. Muck and money go together.
625. Murder will out.
626. My house is my castle.
627. Name not a rope in his house that was hanged.
628. Necessity is the mother of invention.
629. Necessity knows no law.
630. Neck or nothing.
631. Need makes the old wife trot.
632. Needs must when the devil drives.
633. Neither fish nor flesh.
634. Neither here nor there.
635. Neither rhyme nor reason.
636. Never cackle till your egg is laid.
637. Never cast dirt into that fountain of which you have sometime drunk.
638. Never do things by halves.
639. Never fry a fish till it's caught.
640. Never offer to teach fish to swim.
641. Never put off till tomorrow what you can do (can be done) today.
642. Never quit certainty for hope.
643. Never too much of a good thing.
644. Never try to prove what nobody doubts.
645. Never write what you dare not sign.
646. New brooms sweep clean.
647. New lords, new laws.
648. Nightingales will not sing in a cage.
649. No flying from fate.
650. No garden without its weeds.
651. No great loss without some small gain.
652. No herb will cure love.
653. No joy without alloy.
654. No living man all things can.
655. No longer pipe, no longer dance.
656. No man is wise at all times.
657. No man loves his fetters, be they made of gold.
658. No news (is) good news.
659. No pains, no gains.
660. No song, no supper.
661. No sweet without (some) sweat.
662. No wisdom like silence.
663. None but the brave deserve the fair.
664. None so blind as those who won't see.
665. None so deaf as those that won't hear.
666. Nothing comes out of the sack but what was in it.
667. Nothing is impossible to a willing heart.
668. Nothing must be done hastily but killing of fleas.
669. Nothing so bad, as not to be good for something.
670. Nothing succeeds like success.
671. Nothing venture, nothing have.
672. Oaks may fall when reeds stand the storm.
673. Of two evils choose the least.
674. Old birds are not caught with chaff.
675. Old friends and old wine are best.
676. On Shank's mare.
677. Once bitten, twice shy.
678. Once is no rule (custom).
679. One beats the bush, and another catches the bird.
680. One chick keeps a hen busy.
681. One drop of poison infects the whole tun of wine.
682. One fire drives out another.
683. One good turn deserves another.
684. One law for the rich, and another for the poor.
685. One lie makes many.
686. One link broken, the whole chain is broken.
687. One man, no man.
688. One man's meat is another man's poison.
689. One scabby sheep will mar a whole flock.
690. One swallow does not make a summer.
691. One today is worth two tomorrow.
692. Open not your door when the devil knocks.
693. Opinions differ.
694. Opportunity makes the thief.
695. Out of sight, out of mind.
696. Out of the frying-pan into the fire.
697. Packed like herrings.
698. Patience is a plaster for all sores.
699. Penny-wise and pound-foolish.
700. Pleasure has a sting in its tail.
701. Plenty is no plague.
702. Politeness costs little (nothing), but yields much.
703. Poverty is no sin.
704. Poverty is not a shame, but the being ashamed of it is.
705. Practise what you preach.
706. Praise is not pudding.
707. Pride goes before a fall.
708. Procrastination is the thief of time.
709. Promise is debt.
710. Promise little, but do much.
711. Prosperity makes friends, and adversity tries them.
712. Put not your hand between the bark and the tree.
713. Rain at seven, fine at eleven.
714. Rats desert a sinking ship.
715. Repentance is good, but innocence is better.
716. Respect yourself, or no one else will respect you.
717. Roll my log and I will roll yours.
718. Rome was not built in a day.
719. Salt water and absence wash away love.
720. Saying and doing are two things.
721. Score twice before you cut once.
722. Scornful dogs will eat dirty puddings.
723. Scratch my back and I'll scratch yours.
724. Self done is soon done.
725. Self done is well done.
726. Self is a bad counsellor.
727. Self-praise is no recommendation.
728. Set a beggar on horseback and he'll ride to the devil.
729. Set a thief to catch a thief.
730. Shallow streams make most din.
731. Short debts (accounts) make long friends.
732. Silence gives consent.
733. Since Adam was a boy.
734. Sink or swim!
735. Six of one and half a dozen of the other.
736. Slow and steady wins the race.
737. Slow but sure.
738. Small rain lays great dust.
739. So many countries, so many customs.
740. So many men, so many minds.
741. Soft fire makes sweet malt.
742. Something is rotten in the state of Denmark .
743. Soon learnt, soon forgotten.
744. Soon ripe, soon rotten.
745. Speak (talk) of the devil and he will appear (is sure to appear).
746. Speech is silver but silence is gold.
747. Standers-by see more than gamesters.
748. Still waters run deep.
749. Stolen pleasures are sweetest.
750. Stretch your arm no further than your sleeve will reach.
751. Stretch your legs according to the coverlet.
752. Strike while the iron is hot.
753. Stuff today and starve tomorrow.
754. Success is never blamed.
755. Such carpenters, such chips.
756. Sweep before your own door.
757. Take care of the pence and the pounds will take care of themselves.
758. Take us as you find us.
759. Tarred with the same brush.
760. Tastes differ.
761. Tell that to the marines.
762. That cock won't fight.
763. That which one least anticipates soonest comes to pass.
764. That's a horse of another colour.
765. That's where the shoe pinches!
766. The beggar may sing before the thief (before a footpad).
767. The best fish smell when they are three days old.
768. The best fish swim near the bottom.
769. The best is oftentimes the enemy of the good.
770. The busiest man finds the most leisure.
771. The camel going to seek horns lost his ears.
772. The cap fits.
773. The cask savours of the first fill.
774. The cat shuts its eyes when stealing cream.
775. The cat would eat fish and would not wet her paws.
776. The chain is no stronger than its weakest link.
777. The cobbler should stick to his last.
778. The cobbler's wife is the worst shod.
779. The darkest hour is that before the dawn.
780. The darkest place is under the candlestick.
781. The devil is not so black as he is painted.
782. The devil knows many things because he is old.
783. The devil lurks behind the cross.
784. The devil rebuking sin.
785. The dogs bark, but the caravan goes on.
786. The Dutch have taken Holland !
787. The early bird catches the worm.
788. The end crowns the work.
789. The end justifies the means.
790. The evils we bring on ourselves are hardest to bear.
791. The exception proves the rule.
792. The face is the index of the mind.
793. The falling out of lovers is the renewing of love.
794. The fat is in the fire.
795. The first blow is half the battle.
796. The furthest way about is the nearest way home.
797. The game is not worth the candle.
798. The heart that once truly loves never forgets.
799. The higher the ape goes, the more he shows his tail.
800. The last drop makes the cup run over.
801. The last straw breaks the camel's back.
802. The leopard cannot change its spots.
803. The longest day has an end.
804. The mill cannot grind with the water that is past.
805. The moon does not heed the barking of dogs.
806. The more haste, the less speed.
807. The more the merrier.
808. The morning sun never lasts a day.
809. The mountain has brought forth a mouse.
810. The nearer the bone, the sweeter the flesh.
811. The pitcher goes often to the well but is broken at last.
812. The pot calls the kettle black.
813. The proof of the pudding is in the eating.
814. The receiver is as bad as the thief.
815. The remedy is worse than the disease.
816. The rotten apple injures its neighbours.
817. The scalded dog fears cold water.
818. The tailor makes the man.
819. The tongue of idle persons is never idle.
820. The voice of one man is the voice of no one.
821. The way (the road) to hell is paved with good intentions.
822. The wind cannot be caught in a net.
823. The work shows the workman.
824. There are lees to every wine.
825. There are more ways to the wood than one.
826. There is a place for everything, and everything in its place.
827. There is more than one way to kill a cat.
828. There is no fire without smoke.
829. There is no place like home.
830. There is no rose without a thorn.
831. There is no rule without an exception.
832. There is no smoke without fire.
833. There's many a slip 'tween (== between) the cup and the lip.
834. There's no use crying over spilt milk.
835. They are hand and glove.
836. They must hunger in winter that will not work in summer.
837. Things past cannot be recalled.
838. Think today and speak tomorrow.
839. Those who live in glass houses should not throw stones.
840. Time and tide wait for no man.
841. Time cures all things.
842. Time is money.
843. Time is the great healer.
844. Time works wonders.
845. To add fuel (oil) to the fire (flames).
846. To angle with a silver hook.
847. To be born with a silver spoon in one's mouth.
848. To be head over ears in debt.
849. To be in one's birthday suit.
850. To be up to the ears in love.
851. To be wise behind the hand.
852. To beat about the bush.
853. To beat the air.
854. To bring grist to somebody's mill.
855. To build a fire under oneself.
856. To buy a pig in a poke.
857. To call a spade a spade.
858. To call off the dogs.
859. To carry coals to Newcastle .
860. To cast pearls before swine.
861. To cast prudence to the winds.
862. To come away none the wiser.
863. To come off cheap.
864. To come off with a whole skin.
865. To come off with flying colours.
866. To come out dry.
867. To come out with clean hands.
868. To cook a hare before catching him.
869. To cry with one eye and laugh with the other.
870. To cut one's throat with a feather.
871. To draw (pull) in one's horns.
872. To drop a bucket into an empty well.
873. To draw water in a sieve.
874. To eat the calf in the cow's belly.
875. To err is human.
876. To fiddle while Rome is burning.
877. To fight with one's own shadow.
878. To find a mare's nest.
879. To fish in troubled waters.
880. To fit like a glove.
881. To flog a dead horse.
882. To get out of bed on the wrong side.
883. To give a lark to catch a kite.
884. To go for wool and come home shorn.
885. To go through fire and water (through thick and thin).
886. To have a finger in the pie.
887. To have rats in the attic.
888. To hit the nail on the head.
889. To kick against the pricks.
890. To kill two birds with one stone.
891. To know everything is to know nothing.
892. To know on which side one's bread is buttered.
893. To know what's what.
894. To lay by for a rainy day.
895. To live from hand to mouth.
896. To lock the stable-door after the horse is stolen.
897. To look for a needle in a haystack.
898. To love somebody (something) as the devil loves holy water.
899. To make a mountain out of a molehill.
900. To make both ends meet.
901. To make the cup run over.
902. To make (to turn) the air blue.
903. To measure another man's foot by one's own last.
904. To measure other people's corn by one's own bushel.
905. To pay one back in one's own coin.
906. To plough the sand.
907. To pour water into a sieve.
908. To pull the chestnuts out of the fire for somebody.
909. To pull the devil by the tail.
910. To put a spoke in somebody's wheel.
911. To put off till Doomsday.
912. To put (set) the cart before the horse.
913. To rob one's belly to cover one's back.
914. To roll in money.
915. To run with the hare and hunt with the hounds.
916. To save one's bacon.
917. To send (carry) owls to Athens .
918. To set the wolf to keep the sheep.
919. To stick to somebody like a leech.
920. To strain at a gnat and swallow a camel.
921. To take counsel of one's pillow.
922. To take the bull by the horns.
923. To teach the dog to bark.
924. To tell tales out of school.
925. To throw a stone in one's own garden.
926. To throw dust in somebody's eyes.
927. To throw straws against the wind.
928. To treat somebody with a dose of his own medicine.
929. To use a steam-hammer to crack nuts.
930. To wash one's dirty linen in public.
931. To wear one's heart upon one's sleeve.
932. To weep over an onion.
933. To work with the left hand.
934. Tomorrow come never.
935. Too many cooks spoil the broth.
936. Too much knowledge makes the head bald.
937. Too much of a good thing is good for nothing.
938. Too much water drowned the miller .
939. Too swift arrives as tardy as too slow.
940. True blue will never stain.
941. True coral needs no painter's brush.
942. Truth comes out of the mouths of babes and sucklings.
943. Truth is stranger than fiction.
944. Truth lies at the bottom of a well.
945. Two blacks do not make a white.
946. Two heads are better than one.
947. Two is company, but three is none.
948. Velvet paws hide sharp claws.
949. Virtue is its own reward.
950. Wait for the cat to jump.
951. Walls have ears.
952. Wash your dirty linen at home.
953. Waste not, want not.
954. We know not what is good until we have lost it.
955. We never know the value of water till the well is dry.
956. We shall see what we shall see.
957. We soon believe what we desire.
958. Wealth is nothing without health.
959. Well begun is half done.
960. What can't be cured, must be endured.
961. What is bred in the bone will not go out of the flesh.
962. What is done by night appears by day.
963. What is done cannot be undone.
964. What is got over the devil's back is spent under his belly.
965. What is lost is lost.
966. What is sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander.
967. What is worth doing at alt is worth doing well.
968. What must be, must be.
969. What the heart thinks the tongue speaks.
970. What we do willingly is easy.
971. When angry, count a hundred.
972. When at Rome, do as the Romans do.
973. When children stand quiet, they have done some harm.
974. When flatterers meet, the devil goes to dinner.
975. When guns speak it is too late to argue.
976. When pigs fly.
977. When Queen Anne was alive.
978. When the cat is away, the mice will play.
979. When the devil is blind.
980. When the fox preaches, take care of your geese.
981. When the pinch comes, you remember the old shoe.
982. When three know it, alt know it.
983. When wine is in wit is out.
984. Where there's a will, there's a way.
985. While the grass grows the horse starves.
986. While there is life there is hope.
987. Who breaks, pays.
988. Who has never tasted bitter, knows not what is sweet.
989. Who keeps company with the wolf, will learn to howl.
990. Wise after the event.
991. With time and patience the leaf of the mulberry becomes satin.
992. Words pay no debts.
993. You can take a horse to the water but you cannot make him drink.
994. You cannot eat your cake and have it.
995. You cannot flay the same ox twice.
996. You cannot judge a tree by it bark.
997. You cannot teach old dogs new tricks.
998. You cannot wash charcoal white.
999. You made your bed, now lie in it.
1000. Zeal without knowledge is a runaway horse.

Pleasing personality and Understaing of Deen

Allah's Messenger (SAW) said, "Two characteristics are not found together in a hypocrite - Pleasant personality and understanding of deen" - Tirmizi
 
If anyone of these qualities is missing in you then...
 
Read quran for the understanding of deen and always Allah the following Dua
 
 
Allahumma Faqqihnii Fid-deen
O Allah! Grant me wisdom in Deen
 
And for pleasing personality, follow the lifestyle of our belover Nabi (SAW)
 
Comments are appreciated

PIOUS WOMEN

01* Every single woman going to hell will take four (4) jannati men. Because they did not fikr nor had they cared in duniya about the Deen and Imaan of that woman and did not teach her Deen, these four men will be:
 
1. her father
2. her brother
3. her husband
4. her son
 
02* In jannat people will go to visit (see) Allah Taalah, but Allah Ta'Ala himself will visit (to see) the woman who has observed PARDAH while in the world.
 
03* When a woman's husband dies while he was happy and pleased with her, jannat becomes wajib for her

04* When the husband comes home the wife gives him food to eat (not being involved in dishonesty with regard to herself and her    husband's belongings), Allah Tallah gives her the sawaab of 12 years of ibaadat
 
05* Upon the child crying at night, if the mother feeds the child (gives milk to the child) without cursing, she receives the sawaab of performing namaaz for one year.
 
06* A woman receives the sawaab of 70 years of namaaz and roza on giving birth to one child and the pain she suffered in every vein of her body while giving birth, for that she will receive the sawaab of one hajj.
 
07* The namaaz and ibaadat of a woman disobedient to her husband do not reach heaven .
 
08* Every night of an expectant mother (a woman who is carrying a baby in her womb) is counted as spent in ibaadat and every day as spent in fasting .
 
09* A chaste woman who is mindful of namaaz and roza, also makes khidmat for her husband, for her all the 8 doors of jannat are opened . She may enter from whichever doors she likes.
 
10* When a woman makes the zikr of bismillah while preparing the dough (for roti), her livelihood is increased (i.e . she receives barakat in her rozi).
 
11* A woman who is rendered restless owing to the illness of her baby and yet kept on striving to comfort the baby, Allah Talaah forgives all her sins and gives her the sawaab of 12 years accepted in ibaadat .
 
12* A woman who sends out her husband in the path of Allah and stays at home by herself, maintaining her honour and dignity (i.e. protecting herself against temptation and dishonesty) will enter jannat 500 years before her husband while 70,000 angels and hoors will serve her. She will be given ghusl in jannat and sitting on mountains of pearls , she will await the arrival of her husband
 
13* When a husband and a wife look at each other with love and affection, Allah himself looks at both of them with love and affection.
 
14* A woman, who is deprived(lack) of sleep owing to her child crying at night, receives the sawaab of freeing 20 slaves
 
15* When a husband comes home full of worries and the wife extends warm welcome to him and consoles him; she receives the reward of half jihaad.
 
May Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala protect us all, Ameen!